
Just recently I was with my 93-year-old dad who is suffering with memory problems, tentatively diagnosed as Alzheimers. He's living in a care center in Norwalk, Iowa.
My sis-in-law, Barbara Bougher, visited with me. We stopped at Walgreens first to get a few prizes for him: snickers candy, an I-love-you card, some reading glasses, a pen and pad of paper, tucked in a colorful gift bag. Oh, and one of those fun rubber balls with fringe-like stuff all over it, and very squishy. He loved it.

We laughed as Dad tossed the fuzzy ball to Barb. He was teasing her. This was a spark of the dad I know...
He laughed and we laughed.
Then he suddenly got a blank look on his face and stopped, just sat there and stared into nothingness.
Alzheimers is a thief. It has stolen my dad from me. My once funny, smart, very loving father who never hurt a soul, is lost in a fuzzy world with only momentary flashes of memory.
Although he doesn't always know at first who I am when I visit, when it does click in his dimming mind, it's a huge treasure for me.
One of those gems was handed to me this week. He looked into my eyes for a long time and finally spoke some broken words: "I used to carry you..." I cried then.
Then he spoke these struggling words, "I'm in bad shape." He knows he can't remember. He knows things are fuzzy. He feels out of control. Then Barb and I both cried.
He was quite attentive to the scripture as I read to him. We prayed and hugged his neck and kissed his cheeks and wiped his eyes for him... And promised we'd be back.

I hope he still knows me when I return.